Sunday, July 16, 2017

Well, Hush My Mouth

 Being embarrassed by what one's spouse says is sometimes a subtle undertone of ownership. But a person doesn't own their spouse.
  Why would you be embarrassed by what someone else says, as if you're responsible for their actions?  A spouse isn't a child, they are a whole entire separate person.
It's like when I, a female and a wife, say something that the men don't agree with - they look at my husband as if he should feel disgraced because I voiced an opinion that wasn't popular.  "Oh, you can't control your woman!"
The fact is, he doesn't own me, and as a free human being my thoughts can be expressed freely.  
Walking on eggshells is a miserable way to live, especially for a married couple.  When I speak, it's for the purpose of expressing what I believe.  Not to mislead or manipulate, or to control a situation by hiding the truth.
Acknowledging a person's sovereignty over their own life is a happy way for adults to live together, because they respect each other.  Not because one believes they own the other.

Tuesday, March 28, 2017


Human trafficking has stubbornly remained in current news, with reports of overwhelming numbers of victims worldwide.  Obviously, a belief that freedom is a gift from God that should be considered an inalienable right, is not shared in much of earth's society.

Religious hierarchies and their clergies' default starting position is to assume that there's a natural right to demand obedience.  That a human's own preferences and decisions are to be considered last and least, if at all.  That a human has no obligation to the care and improvement of self whatsoever, but a complete obligation to sacrifice that self to the survival and promotion of whatever brand of God's bullies he may find himself.

An example of this is seen in most schools or kindergartens (here in the U.S.) that I have experience with.  A child refusing to share a toy that another child is demanding to play with, is told by his parent or teacher that he must share the toy, even if it's an object that the child was given and considers his own property.  His ownership is invalidated, and he's taught in effect, that he may not own or control property - that anyone can appear and demand he surrender what he considered his own, and that he has no right to refuse.

A person who abuses a child in any way, has this mindset and attitude - that the child does not have a right or a say in what is going to be done to him.  An abuser does not consider that a child has any more right than a dog or cat to control his body.

A child who is taught that people have no rights or sovereignty over their body, grows into an adult who sees nothing wrong with ignoring boundaries of another human being.

This disrespect is blatant in the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society organization [cult], (of which my family and I were members for many years), and of course, all religions that claim that God wants them to translate and administrate his word. The control they insist on retaining, denies a person the right to consider his own self as belonging to himself. They use unrelenting mind-control programs with the intent of instilling self-doubt, so that the victim is ever dependent and therefore OWNED.

I personally went into this cult with no inkling of what awaited me as far as destruction of my own will. I experienced frequent cognitive dissonance which I suppressed any time that independent thinking was referred to as "bad and sinful." The training is apparent and heavy-handed for a woman, when repeatedly hearing that she has no right before Jehovah (God) to refuse to submit.  Being submissive of her time and work for the organization, being submissive to her husband in every aspect of life including sexually, is the only way to receive acceptance and recognition. She only becomes something by becoming nothing.

In 2015 the Australian Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse began investigating the WT and found incontrovertible evidence of further damage caused to victims by the WT's own policies.  Child sexual abuse allegations as well as confessed abuse were kept secret and went unreported to police:

In March of 2017, the WT was revisited by the Royal Commission, to determine the level of change and improvement of their policies concerning child sexual abuse and protection of children from predators within their organization.

These sessions were recorded and can be viewed on - start with
Royal Commission hearing, Day 1 Part 1 - well worth the time and effort to get a look at what the administration of a world-wide secretive cult actually perpetrated the last 100-plus years.  Their official line is to deny that their policies have harmed anyone, and that the evidence of their bungling is all a lie from Satan.

But now we can see the truth with our own eyes - no "faith" needed - the facts and the perpetrators are exposed, thanks to the Australians' Royal Commission.

Saturday, September 24, 2016

Monday, September 19, 2016

Take Away the Duvet

It's a culture on its own - just like the green ceramic egg for grilling meats; or the insane preoccupation with Volkswagens - it's a down comforter, the DUVET.  Pronounced dooVAY.  So warm, so light.  Like sleeping under a cloud, so unbelievably comfortable.

Each thing you get needs more things to go with it.  The accessories make it better and more fun so you get more out of it.

Don't worry about the pristine snow white fabric - we can buy a duvet cover and then you don't have to clean the duvet.  It's a blanket for the blanket! Just throw the duvet cover into the washer.

Well we didn't know enough about how to wrestle that huge blanket into its envelope, so it was quite a tussle.  Once it was spread into the cover and the edges all matched up, there was no way to keep the comforter from sliding around in there.

There was a lot more cover than there was duvet and the excess bunched up.  It was more difficult to make the bed than ever.  And every morning the entire business was covering more of the floor than the bed.

We now have a duvet cover to donate and a comforter to drop off at the dry cleaner.

Sunday, September 18, 2016

Freakin' STRESS Fix

A vivid memory I have, is a meeting where the point of the talk was stress relief. "Many people think they should attend fewer meetings to lessen the stress they are coping with. But it's not the MEETINGS causing stress, it's all the other things in your life you are trying to get done! Just let all those things go and the stress will be alleviated."
Things like paying your bills so you can have AC and electricity and your kids can go to the orthodontist and have food on the table?
"Oh sister, you are lacking faith in Jehovah!"
Really? That's funny, because I just can't remember the last time Jehovah paid my electric bill.
How about eliminating meetings so I can work more hours every week and earn more money and still have twice the energy left at the end of the day - because of NO MEETINGS.